Tuesday, 17 July 2012

Successful Black

This post is inspired by the last few tweets I just posted...
Which were, in turn, inspired by the daily rubbish that's on mainstream media day in and day out!
I fail to understand why Black beauty has been boxed in to fit a certain look. I don't know why the less African you look, the more successful you are perceived to be.

Why is it that the Black woman with the dreadlocks is always depicted as a "naturalist" a "free spirit"? Possible job title = Artist/Freelancer/Self-empoyed. Why?
Why can't a successful black person have dreads and be a successful CEO of some big corporate?

Why must success be linked to looking more European and less Afrikan? Why?

Are dreadlocks and the overall Afrikan look considered untidy? If so why? Is walking around with hair that isn't yours considered more cleaner than my own Afrikan hair? Why though?

That doesn't make sense to me.

Why must the young successful Black female have plastic/fake hair to be taken seriously? Am I the only one who sees flaw n this logic? How is it that plastic hair trumps real hair in the boardroom?
Shouldn't it be the other way round?

If a white person walked into a boardroom full of execs wearing fake black hair, would he/she be taken seriously or laughed at? Would a white person even think of doing something like that? If not, then why must we continue to mold and reshape ourselves to fit what they consider appropriate or acceptable? Why can't our "acceptable" be our acceptable and their acceptable be just that for them?

I hate the fact that we've sidelined our own Afrikan-ness in exchange for what is acceptable by the white race. In fact, I don't think they have so much power over us that they can dictate what is right or wrong when it comes to our appearance. We are imposing these beliefs on ourselves. Actually, no, scratch that. They are imposing these looks on us. They are the ones heading the advertising industry, they are the ones responsible for what we see on our TV screens every day. They dictate what is acceptable and what isn't.
Damn, can't believe I almost fell for that – "it's not them, it's us" shit.
Although at the end of the day us ans individuals are responsible for how we want the world to view us... we really don't have much to refer to. All we are surrounded by are images of success through the eyes of the oppressor. Why can't we have more pro-black success figures instead of what are, in jest, black-painted white ideals?


I'll tell you why, because Blackness is seen as a once off thing. Not an every day occurrence. We are not used to being Black all the time. Not used to being Afrikan all the time. We are given a day, a month every year, where we can be all the Afrikan we want. As long as we go back to what has been set as the default Blackness at the end of it all. Long as we go back to what fist the predefined mold of what a Black Afrikan is supposed to look like so as to keep the white man at ease. Lord knows no one should make the white man uncomfortable in his  world. Stay in your lane. Stay the way they've decided you should look/feel/be.

We need more images of "Black excellence" than the ones we see on the catwalks of successful fashion lines that have that one token Blackie to appease the Blacks. Images that define Black Excellence in what it really is – Black + Excellence. Not the Black nation being successful within the confines of white borders. ... "you can't look a certain way ALL THE TIME" "your version of beauty is doesn't fit my environment"

I'm done. I can go on for hours on this topic...
*sigh*
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Thursday, 28 June 2012

Rock bottom

I think it's just so sad how people who consider themselves entrepreneurs still don't "hustle" as much as they claim to...

Some times all it takes is for you to hit rock bottom before you actually strive to succeed. Some times all you need is that moment in your life where you're living out of your car... or moving back home... asking your parents for petrol money even!

But it seems a lot of so-called "hustlers" are still relaxing. Slacking if you will. Still having things given to them and being spoon-fed opportunities. My take is, as long as you still have your car, still have your own roof above your head, still have your own everything and haven't really lost or given up anything in pursuit of your dream/ambition... then you haven't really figured out what it takes to succeed.

If Steve Harvey had to live in his car and be homeless and unemployed for him to succeed and be all over the entertainment industry for as long as he has... then you know what's pushing him... to stay where he is now... That constant reminder of what it's like to lose everything and start at the bottom. Literally and otherwise. He knows all too well how it's like to not know where his next meal was gonna come from. And I believe that's what it takes to keep you hungry for more. What keeps you aiming and searching for the next big thing, the next goal, the next notch on his belt, the next achievement.

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So... My observation is this... If you don't know what it feels like to lose absolutely everything, you don't know what it takes to strive for success.

That's that.

I could run with this for a few more paragraphs, a few more examples... like Patrice Motsepe, who was literally unemployed and broke at age 32, and made his first million at 36. Why? Because he had the drive, that fire on his ass that kept fueling him not to go back there.

Anyway, let me leave it there.

Night!
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Friday, 9 March 2012

"She's a beauty!"

This just dawned on me...

The phrase:
She's a beauty!
Is heavily abused by white people. And the sad part is that it usually has nothing to do with a person, animal or anything that has a gender. It's often used for inanimate objects like cars and such.

I find this heavily entertaining, simply because I don't see how something that is perceived to be appealing to the eye, must be deemed beautiful and made female.

Case-in-point:

A guitar!

Why though?
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Tuesday, 27 December 2011

Social Numericals

I have this thing where I wonder why people follow or add me on social networks. Each time a new person follows me, I wonder what it is that I said that made them want to find out more about me. I wish I knew the answer. It would probably make me a bit more paranoid though, so I guess it's good that I don't know.

I have over 700+ friends on Facebook and 100+ friend requests, 500 followers on Twitter, and I get new followers on Tumblr almost weekly - I'm at 76 now. And 63 contacts on Flickr.



It makes me feel abit uncomfortable and a bit self-conscious. That there's someone out there reading/watching/listening to what I have to say.

Puts a bit of pressure on my sometimes. Especially after a new follow/add/like. I feel like now I have to make this person feel that they've made the right choice by following/adding me as their friend/contact/whatever. Needless to say that only lasts a short while, then I'm back on my level again.

I really appreciate all the people that use their free will and right to choose, and click on that follow/add/like button.

Really appreciate it.


*this started as a status update on Facebook. Then I couldn't find the Add Note link. So I thought why not put it on my blog, since it's gonna spread all over the other social networks anyway? So that covers that. Happy 2012 and beyond!

Be.
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Tuesday, 15 November 2011

@KylaPratt has a baby... So what?


Is it so wrong if someone chooses no to advertise her baby and/or pregnancy to the whole world?

I, for one, absolutely don't think so!

But clearly, for the masses over in Hollywood, who seem to have nothing better to do with their time, it is a crime punishable by stoning!

Yesterday, a tweet showed up on my timeline talking about how Kyla Pratt has a "secret baby". So, me being the curious cat I am, I clicked on the link to find out more.

And this is what I came across:
According to popular online gossip site, child star Kyla Pratt just dropped a bombshell on national TV!

The actress ... ... confirmed baby rumours which had apparently been doing the rounds and revealed that she has an almost 1-year-old baby girl after secretly giving birth a year ago.

[source]

So what?! How is this anyone's business anyway?

I see no reason for her to publicly announce the existence of a baby in her life. But alas, that's not what this is about, I'm more interested in blogs going crazy about her having a "secret baby".

Does the fact that she's well in her mid-20's count for nothing?!

If she wants to have a baby, then let her, I don't see how this is anyone's business. Claiming that she has a secret baby is basically saying that she shouldn't have hidden the fact that she was pregnant or even the obvious fact that she's now old enough to bear children. And well within her rights to do so.

Maybe the fact that Vuzu is still airing old episodes of One on One, where Ms Pratt is in her early teens, is what warrants the urge to publish the story on their website.

So I guess everyone and anyone who has ever been on TV owes it to the world to share whatever that is personal to them? I doubt it.

Anyway, I'm off it.

:p
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