Justification...

I don't understand this.

Why is it that when people making racial slurs (e.g. white people) are exposed, the first thing that comes out of their mouths is:

I'm not a racist. Some of my best friends are black!

What the?

Does my walking around barefoot mean I support enviromentalist tree-huggers? No. It's totally unrelated.

Same applies to you having friends (or whatever) from a different race. You having black friends, or any other race for that matter, says nothing about the kind of person you are. What you decide on your own is not dependent on whether you have black friends or not. It's just one of those things that you either are or not.

There's no in-between.

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Waiting on the world to change

I had an epiphanous moment last night. Only last night it occured to me that I spend waaay too much time doing the one thing I hate the most waiting. I procrastinate like tomorrow's guaranteed. Yet we all know it isn't.

And I'm sure I'm not the only one. But what is there to gain in waiting for something to happen when the only thing standing between waiting and getting something done is actually doing it!?

I think as a people, we spend a lot of time waiting for things to happen. We spend a lot of time postponing things for "the right time". Who said right now isn't the right time? Who decides when the right time is?

It's a whole different board game, if you have absolutely no power if waiting is inevitable; like waiting for a delayed flight. You can't just decide you're gonna take a bus instead because you don't wanna waste another second waiting. You don't really have a choice, you have to wait.

But waiting for things that you can change or do something about right now is just plain inexcusable.

A lot of things pass people by because they're standing on the sidelines waiting on the world to change so they can make things happen.

My question is: Why wait? What's standing in your way to becoming a better you or being in a better position than you're in now?

//After motivating myself to stop waiting. I got up, cooked (for the first time in a looong time) washed dishes and cleared out my stuff till around 1am this morning.

What are you waiting for?

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When will you call?

Don't you just hate it when you call someone and their phone is either off or they jusst don't pick up?

I know you do!

I do too. What's more irritating is when someone asks you to call them and they don't bother to pick up after more than three tries.

You think those two scenarios are irritating. I'll do you one better.

You're having a great conversation on the phone with an old friend and they get interrupted on their side, and they tell you:

Let me call you back!

And they don't.

Hours, days, weeks, even months go by and this person doesn't even bother to get back to you.

How's that for ettiquettelessness? Yes, that's a made-up word, sue me!!

Legal paranoia aside, back to the issue at hand...

People not calling you when they say they will.

What's up with that?

Is your life really that busy that in the 24 hours God gives you each day, you can't spend a few minutes on the phone even just to say hi? Even a text message will do.

Granted you may not have access to the phone at all times, but there are other means of communication available to you aren't there? I mean, there's email, IMs, Facebook, Mxit... the list goes on and on.

So why is it so difficult for people to keep their word. When you say you're gonna call someone, please do?

Otherwise don't say anything at all. Just hang up.

Nobody's forcing you to say "I'll call you". No-one!

There's nothing wrong with not saying you'll return somebody's call. Especially if you're not gonna do it. And have a track record to prove it. Just don't do it.

Please.

Don't you just hate it when that happens?

There's a reason why there are never any songs thanking people for calling. Imagine a song called "Thanks for Returning My Call"? It just doesn't exist.

Instead we have smash hits such as "How Come You Don't Call (Alicia Keys)" , "When Will You Call (Bilal)" and the likes.

:p

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Parenting 2.0

My heart skipped a beat when I logged onto Facebook and found I had one friend request. It was my dad.

I didn't know what to do with his request so I left it just where it is. I still don't know what to do with it.

Is this what the world has come to - parenting via a social network?

I'm not being otherwise here. I just prefer to keep people I know in the real world, in the real world.

Nothing too complicated.

Sorry dad.

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